Bullying Facts and Statistics – Advice For the Parents of Victims
By John W Sheridan
Some things never seem to change. I am 61 years old and when I was in school there was the dreaded bully taking advantage of the children who, for no fault of their own, were singled out as targets. This menace still lurks in the hallways and playgrounds of our schools.
In a publication titled “Bullycide: Death at Playtime” it is said that a victim of a bully commits suicide (Bullycide) once every half hour and that 19,000 children attempt suicide every year as a direct result of depression caused by being bullied.
Parents cannot make light of the situation. We cannot just tell our children to ignore the bully and he will leave you alone. We must become pro-active!
Recent surveys indicate:
- 46 percent of boys and 26 percent of girls have has physical abuse as a result of bullying.
- Every day over 160,000 students are truant for fear of being bullied.
- 77 percent of our kids state that at one time or another they were subjected to the harassment of a bully.
- Males are more likely to be bullied than females.
Male bullying usually tends to be of a physical nature whereas females who bully usually do so in the form of verbal harassment.
How do we know our kids are being bullied?
There is the “Code of Silence” we all knew as kids. This makes it very difficult for us as parents to know when our kids are being bullied. Kids are afraid that if they tell parents or teachers they are being bullied that the bullies will retaliate with even more severe abuse.
In addition, kids do not want to be identified as a “rat”.
Some indicators that you may look out for:
- Bruises or torn clothing noted and the child is reluctant to explain why.
- Your child shows signs of depression, lack of self esteem or self worth.
- A significant and unexplained drop in grade averages.
- They constantly come up reasons they feel they should not go to school.
- Your child comes home without items they took to school, again without explanation.
- Radical unexplained changes in your child’s behavior.
How do you protect your child from bullying?
This question is very difficult to answer for several reasons.
- Every child is an individual and unique in themselves. What works with one child will not necessarily work with another.
- As explained above, children do not want to break the “Code of Silence” and will be reluctant to tell you if they are being bullied.
One thing that I am absolutely certain of, it only takes one traumatic bullying episode to cause emotional damage to your child and all parents need to take the problem of bullying with extreme care and immediacy.
I have written a detailed report on the subject of Cyber Bullycide Victims. Please read it to find out how to protect your children from Cyber-Bullying!
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